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5 Ways to Create Goals that Empower You (during your fertility struggles)

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If you ask people struggling with fertility what their real goals are, it’s always a simple answer… To get pregnant and have a baby.

What is your five-year plan? To have a baby.

What was your goal last year? To have a baby. Stop asking about my goals.

And whatever you do, don’t give me advice or a quick fix solution. We’re good.

More than just an unmet goal, having a family is a dream for those struggling with fertility. As many of us have faced, getting that positive pregnancy test and having a successful healthy pregnancy are goals that often slip through our fingers of control. Yet we strive forward anyhow, attempt after attempt, despite the hardship and pain this journey can bring. And why do we keep going? Because we are strong enough to. Because we believe it’s possible.

More than goals related to increasing your health and fertility, goals can help you transform your life by giving you courage to keep going, bounce back from the pain of a pregnancy failure or loss, and empower you to take this journey another step further. Most importantly goals can help move you forward from a place of feeling stuck, instead tapping into aspects that can bring lightness back into your heart and life, perhaps bring the spark back or restore hope…

Here are 5 guidelines that may help bring transformation into your life and new energy into your fertility journey:

1. Joy - When facing hardship, we can get into a state of depriving ourselves. Strangely enough its often things we need, like joy, adventure and laughter. Ask yourself what would bring more joy into your life? We each have our list, but when’s the last time you remember engaging in joyful activities, conversations, unproductive fun and actually feeling it in the moment? If your pausing here because you’re thinking, that means your due for an infusion.

2. Eliminate what depletes you - Create a goal that eliminates an aspect in your life that depletes your energy, body, or spirit. This often means exploring what’s draining your joy. Perhaps it’s time to look at changing your routines, simplifying your life or taking space from relationships, people or obligations that aren’t serving you. And when ‘taking space’ is not possible? Emotionally take a step back. Invest in you and decide how you want to think and feel, not how that situation, person or aspect makes you feel.

3. Feed your heart - Explore what would bring more love, compassion and affection into your life. Let yourself love those around you and let yourself be cared for, loved, held, appreciated. Depriving oneself of love is like committing to the hardship instead of thriving despite of it.

For many going through fertility struggles, there comes with it a survival mode of ‘just keep going’ and ‘I’m okay’, but over time many lose the spark they had for life. The cure? Nurture yourself. Feed your body, your spirit, your mind. Be honest with yourself and how this journey makes you feel at times. Find ways to be gentle with yourself and those around you. Locate that funny bone or find adventure…

4. Make room for you - On top of continuing your regular life and obligations, you have taken on a second challenging job, making a baby that is struggling to be ‘made’. On top of countless medical appointments, you are also dealing with the fertility struggle that plays out in your mind and heart. So create more space in your life for you, and for those who want to spend time with. You don’t have to give all your time away and you don’t have to hide either.

5. Stop punishing ourselves - I strongly encourage people facing fertility struggles to consider making a goal to stop overdoing it in their life or creating so many commitments that it’s dizzying. Let go of doubting yourself, or turning yourself inside out and overextending trying to make a baby or gain fertility. You are enough and you’re doing the best you can. Maybe take a moment and take in what you have made it through, and what that means you’re capable of. We are the heroes of our own lives.

All my best,

Jessi Nesbitt, Registered Psychologist, M.Ed.

*Originally created for Y.A.N.A. Fertility Support Group in Saskatoon

Many work to erase infertility stigma on Father’s Day – GLOBAL NEWS

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SASKATOON – Nearly half of all infertility cases involve men, yet it’s often perceived as a woman’s issue according to local patient advocacy groups.

“I think that women are maybe more comfortable discussing issues like this with their physicians, they’re more likely to be seeing their physicians on a regular basis,” said Dr. Allison Case, Aurora Reproductive Care co-director.

Anna Baker experienced infertility five years ago and had to seek treatment.

“I felt so alone. I felt like nobody understood this. I didn’t have anybody to talk to,” she said.

Baker started the Regina Infertility Support Group and sees firsthand how men often deal with the challenges of infertility.

“Men and women do tend to cope differently, mostly it has been women who come to the group, it seems to be women who want to reach out and talk.”

Case said men often suffer in silence and are reluctant to seek treatment.

“There may be some embarrassment, about providing semen samples for investigation and other issues such as that,” said Case.

Patient Advocacy Group ‘Infertility Saskatchewan’ said advances in treatment mean 99 per cent of male factor cases are treatable.

“All around education is very important, so education of the community, and of patients, but also of physicians,” said Case.

Dr. Adrian Gamelin with Aurora Reproductive Care said it’s important for physicians to tell patients about what can cause infertility.

“Smoking can reduce the likelihood of getting pregnant with fertility treatment by up to 50 per cent,” said Gamelin.

She also said age can be a factor.

Local doctors said infertility used to be a much bigger challenge but modern technology has now given hope to anyone struggling to conceive.

By Amber Rockliffe, Global News

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Canadian Infertility Awareness Week – 2013

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May 19th to 26th was Canadian Infertility Awareness Week. Dr. Adrian Gamelin and Dr. Allison Case were invited on ‘Ask a Health Pro’ on Global Morning News to discuss infertility and how Aurora Reproductive Care is able to help.

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